In a perfect world, you have found your Prince Charming and he’s loyal to you and only you. If you are reading this post then you might be having doubts about your man. Let me the first to tell you, there’s nothing you can do to make a man commit. There’s no ultimatum in the world that will make him stay or love you the way you want him to love you. If the time isn’t right, then it’s just not right. He has to actually want to take it to the next level with you. He has to want to change. Here are a few signs that he’s not ready to commit.

  1. His actions don’t match his words. Deep down, he may know that you’re the one but he isn’t done with his player ways. He’s caught in the middle. He doesn’t want to lose you but he still wants to be single too. If he’s lying about his true actions then it’s because he doesn’t want to hurt you but at the same time, he doesn’t want another man snuggling with his boo so he’s stringing you along.
  2. He straight up told you. Baby girl, you can’t get more simple than that. If he’s telling you who he is, believe him. I know you see his potential but you’re only hurting yourself. If it’s meant to be then it’ll be. Sometimes, you have to let things go and let it fly. But as you let it fly, you have to expand your wings as well.
  3. He gives you reasons why you should be content with your current situation. So, y’all act like a couple up he doesn’t want to take the next step? He basically wants to keep you close but far away enough not to commit? Oh. In all honesty, before a situation gets to that point, there should be an understanding. Talk about what you guys both want from the beginning. If he lied to you in the beginning about his true intentions then you should get rid of him anyway. He’s a manipulator and a liar.
  4. He’s one big cycle. Cycles with men who still want to play games are predictable. They mess up, they apologize, they wait for the fire to die down, they mess up again. You’re on an emotional roller coaster in the meantime. I have one question to ask, how long do you think you will be on this roller coaster?

Right now, you are on two different pages. You want him so bad because he’s rejecting your needs and desires. When he finally wants to settle down, there’s a chance you won’t want him.