It’s very difficult to move forward in a situation when your heart is telling you one thing and your brain is telling you another. Wouldn’t it be great if they agreed sometimes? Life would be a lot easier. Right now, you may be in a situation where you don’t know if you want to give your significant other a second chance. Most likely, your heart is telling you to do so, but your brain is saying,”F*ck them.” I get it. Trust me, I do. I have been there plenty times. But you’re here because you want to know if you should give them a second chance. Only if they show certain signs of regret.
Signs They Deserve a Second Chance
I won’t make this complicated because it shouldn’t be. The only reason why you should give them a second chance is if they’re truly sorry. I always ask the people that I’m giving advice to the same question. “Are they sorry because they’re afraid to lose you or are they sorry because they realized that they’re actions were unacceptable and you didn’t deserve it?” There’s a huge difference between the two.
Some people break down at the thought of losing you to someone else and THEN decide to get in their feelings. A person who is truly sorry about their actions would immediately feel like sh*t after their wrong doings and let you know. For example, let’s say your partner cheated on you but it took you a month to find out. For the past 30 days, they were smiling in your face and telling you how much the love you, etc.etc. One night, you’re on Facebook and you find out that they cheated on you. When you confront them about it, they bust out with the “baby please, baby waits.”
A person who shows that they are truly sorry will show it without being caught or threatened to be single. People who wait until they’re caught to feel like poo cheese are more likely to do it again – especially if you take them back after their screw up.
Second chances belong to people who truly regret their wrong doings, admit to them, and will willingly do what it takes to fix their janky behavior. Think logically so you won’t be put in the same situation twice. Your heart and emotions are the things that put you in this situation in the first place. Ask yourself,”are they truly regretting it or are they just telling me what I want to hear so I will stay?”
You get what you put up with. Period.