How to get him to want a relationship with you seems like rocket science at first. You not only want him to want a relationship but you want him to commit to you. Use these great steps below to help. 

How to Make Him Want a Relationship

Getting him to want a relationship is what you want almost more than winning right now. You don’t want to scare him off but at the same time you can’t take not being exclusive too much longer. Let me tell you what your doing wrong.

What you are doing to bring him closer to you is actually pushing him further and further away from wanting a relationship without even knowing it. What you are doing won’t get you a relationship or even a husband for that fact.

The ultimate goal is to find someone who compliments you, fall in love, get married and grow old together. What if I told you that you are actually putting a barrier up between you and your ultimate goal by doing stuff you think will bring you closer? Yes. If you want to know how to get him to want a relationship then continue reading.

Do you try different things to see if it will bring you closer? Do you do things that isn’t normally in your character to show him that you’re the one for him? I figured. You do things that a girlfriend would normally do, hoping it will make him realize that you are girlfriend material.

In all reality, if he’s just not ready for a relationship then it’s pointless to try to force one on him. You are wasting your time and energy.

Well how do you know if he want’s a relationship or not? Ask him. In a calm setting, ask him when he can see himself in a committed relationship. What comes out of his mouth will be the truth.

WARNING: Do not ask him this question after you guys are intimate.

He will most likely tell you what you want to hear because he isn’t thinking with the head on his shoulders. Ask him when he is thinking clear.

Challenge Him

You see…the thing with men, they like a challenge. They don’t want the woman who is always available when he calls at his convience. The reason being is because he knows you will always be there waiting for him. He wants the woman who makes it clear that she is nothing less than a priority instead of an option. You want him to take you seriously. Tell him what you will and will not do. Stand up for yourself and your heart.

Food for Thought

Would you treat a $500.00 pair of pumps like a $19.00 pair of pumps? No, you wouldn’t. It’s the same with men. They aren’t going to give the same treatment to a woman who can be picked up at anytime of the day, like the woman who knows her worth and is hard to get his hands on. Which one do you want to be treated like? The woman who is handled with care or the woman who gets thrown around and worn only when there’s no other option?

You’re Making A Mistake

The biggest mistake that you are making is giving the illusion that you’re in a relationship when you’re not. Don’t give him girlfriend privileges when your not his girlfriend! That includes: letting him spend the night, doing his laundry, having sex with him, and cooking dinner for him.

Why would he make it exclusive when he’s already getting the girlfriend treatment? If he’s already getting the extra good loving without any commitment then he’s not going to take it to the next level. If you are giving him the husband treatment while he’s your boyfriend then he you won’t get the ring. If he does then he will do it on his own time. And that can take forever and a day.

When He Will Want A Relationship With You

A man will want a relationship when he develops the fear of losing you. If he doesn’t have that fear then his feelings aren’t that deep for you.If you absolutely want to know if he wants to take it to the next level then give him an ultimatum.HOWEVER, do not give him an ultimatum UNLESS you are ready to split ways. There is a possibility that he doesn’t want a relationship and will walk out of your life for forever.

How would you do it?

Sit him down in a calm setting. DO NOT tell him ahead of time that you need to talk. You will send him into a miniture panic and he will go into defense mode. Before he even gets into your presence, he will be thinking about what you could possibly have to talk about. Nine times out of ten, he will already know what the “talk” will be about so he will have an answer for you prepared. You don’t want that! You want the God honest truth, not some well formulated answer that will sound amazing to your ears when you hear it.


Keep your eyes open. Don’t go off what he says, go off of his actions. Actions WILL ALWAYS speak louder than words. If he shows you that he doesn’t want anything more than what you guys have now then believe him. It is no point in growing permanent damage to your heart for a temporary situation.

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