5 Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Chance of Getting Your Ex Back
Hey! This is Amber with thelovegal.com. If you aren’t familiar with who I am or what I do, check out my website and my new book “Getting Back the Relationship You Always Wanted”. Today’s post will focus on the mistakes you can make during the breakup. Right now, your feelings are all over the place so it can be easy for you to make things worse. At the time, whatever embarrassing action you did probably seemed appropriate to ease the pain. In the long run, it ruined your chances of getting your ex back. Let’s get into it!
1. Not Giving Them the Opportunity to Miss You
How can your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend miss you if you are constantly trying to talk to them? Give them space and time without you trying to convince them that you’re the one for them. I’m sure you have heard of the ‘no contact’ rule by now. Apply it to your situation. If it’s necessary, apply the no-contact rule more than once. The no-contact rule is beneficial to the both of you. You get the opportunity to learn and grow on your own and they get time to clear their mind. Every situation is different but there’s one unanimous thing that helps every situation – time. Unless it is 100% necessary to speak to them, don’t. If you have to see them due to children being involved then only talk about the children. You don’t have to be mean but they should be the one to come back to you.
2. Being Over Emotional After Everything Is Said and Done
I’m sure you said everything you had to say immediately after the break-up. Getting them to feel sorry for you by crying and begging will only make you look pathetic. You want them to be with you because they absolutely love the person you are, not because they feel sorry for you. If they do get back together with you, it will only last so long. If you have moments where your emotions are running crazy, write them down on a piece of paper and throw it away after. Control your emotions. Don’t make the situation worse by contacting them every time you’re overly emotional.
3. Getting Revenge to Make Them Feel As Bad As You Do
Your ex could have pissed you off horribly but that doesn’t give you an adult reason to get back at them. Fire doesn’t put out fire – it makes it worse. If you truly want them back then you should focus on the events leading up to the breakup instead. We’re they really that into you? Are they a good person to begin with? Do you see this relationship being long term? If you want another chance, don’t do anything stupid like sleeping with their friend or messing up their car. No matter the circumstances, karma always comes back around full force.
4. Acting Out of Character Because You’re Heartbroken
Believe it or not, your ex is still watching. You can’t make them regret leaving by sleeping around or talking to several different people. The only way you can make their heads turn is if you end up happy in another solid relationship. As human beings, we always want what we can’t have. Don’t be too available to them or anyone else. You are a prize so act like one.
5. Giving Them What They Want Without Commitment
Sometimes we’re so desperate to be close with our ex’s that we do things that will actually push us a few steps back. For example: being there for every beck and call, having sex with them, giving them money, etc.. All of those things are relationship benefits. Why would they give you commitment if they are getting everything they want from you without one? It’s okay to be there friend but you should cut off all relationship benefits while you’re ahead. This is the time to figure out how to fix your relationship and move forward. Don’t get stuck in the grey area.
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