the love gal

So, this post isn’t necessarily an “advice” post. It’s more for the people who have lost hope in finding true love. I want to let you know that there is someone out there who is praying for someone like you and they will eventually find you. Yesterday, I  witness one of the most heartwarming things that I have ever saw in my 27 years of living. To you, I may sound like I’m being “extra” but I am just really happy for my “sissy”.


Let me give you the backstory on who sissy is. She’s not my sister biologically but I have been close to her for 11 years now. I think it was bound that we were going to be friends by the way we met. The universe pretty much pushed us together (lol). We went to the same high school. She was a year ahead of me. She graduated in 2008 and I graduated in 2009. Even though we went to the same school and hung around the same people, we didn’t talk until we ended up on a double date. Now, we didn’t become friends on the date either. Matter of fact, we didn’t even know that we were on a double date until a week later.

How is that possible?

I was talking to my boyfriend (at the time) on Sunday afternoon and we were talking about the date we had at the movies. He insisted on seeing Ninja Turtles *rolls eyes*. We were actually on a double date with his cousin and his girlfriend.  I got there a little late and the movie had already started. We were sitting in the row ahead of them. I never did pay too much attention to his cousin or his date. I mean, they were behind us. When the movie was over, we got up and walked out. Once again, we were in front of them. They did walk out of the movies the by the time I did look at them, Crystal’s back was turned and she was hugged up with my boo’s cousin. I never did see her face. It wasn’t until we were talking about it, that he told me who his cousin’s girlfriend was.

It turned out that Crystal was the little sister of my big sister’s roommate/friend. The world is really small. When our big sisters found out that we were dating cousins, they started throwing sleepovers. After that, we dubbed ourselves “sissies” and have been cool ever since. We would hang out at least once a week. It didn’t have to be with our boyfriend’s. We would just chill, ride around and do random stuff.

She was there when I was going through my break up with her boyfriend’s cousin. BOY! It was bad. I was super emotional. She was there for me but told me what I needed to hear at the same time. She is definitely one of the most genuine, dependable, and trustworthy people in my life. I’ve seen her go through her ups and down’s with different douche bags. Trust me, she’s been through way more stuff than me. Every time we get together, we catch up, especially about our love lives.

But let’s fast forward to the present. I went to her baby shower yesterday.

I Watched My Friend Get Her Happily Ever After

I remember when I found out that she was pregnant. It was at her birthday dinner. I low key found out before the dinner but I wasn’t digging deep enough nor paying attention to the clues. But anyway, I arrived with two of our friends and joined the rest of her guest. As we’re sitting there chatting I hear, “Oh, Amber doesn’t know…” Of course, that got my attention. I said with a curious smile, “Amber doesn’t know what?” She stood up and rubbed her belly. A huge smile appeared on my face. I stood up and hugged her and told her congratulations. I was so happy for her but super shocked though!

A few months earlier, I had a dream that she was pregnant. I had put on Facebook that I had a dream that one of my friends was pregnant but I never did show the name. She messaged me like 10 minutes later and asked if it was her in the dream. That freaked me the hell out. I never did say who it was but she said she had a feeling it was her and she was right. A couple of weeks later, she found out she was pregnant. Her boyfriend is good to her so I was super happy for her. It wasn’t a situation where I found out and said, “Lordt.”

Let’s snap back into the future.

So I was only 25 minutes late for her baby shower. I was proud of myself. I really tried to be on time. She claims that I am “late to life” so you know I tried to prove her wrong. We ate, played baby shower games, and begin to open her gifts.

I got Junior the cutest outfits.

About halfway through, her boyfriend/father of her child walks in. I didn’t think anything of it but apparently, nobody knew he was coming? He showed up looking really dapper; I mean spiffy from head to toe. I thought he was just showing out because it was their first child. Boy, was I wrong? When they got finished opening presents, he turned to her and stood up. I said, “oh lord.”

I’ve seen that look in his eyes before. My friend Symone and I started panicking and talking among ourselves. He dropped to his knee. The crowd goes wild! He asked my sissy to be his wife. She said yes. The tears started rolling in from every direction. I had to stop myself from crying because I look like a damn monster when I cry and I took my time on my make-up that day. It was the sweetest thing ever.

He dropped down to one knee and all the bad flashbacks moments from every shitty relationship that she had flashed across my mind at once. I couldn’t help but get emotional. I held it together though. The thought that ran through my mind was, “my sister won….yaaaaaas.”

She got her happily ever after. If you only knew what she’s been through…but none of that matters because she’s where she’s supposed to be. She got a loyal and positive man, a beautiful baby boy, and a dog (lol). That’s what every girl dreams about.

I won’t get in my feelings but, that’s my sister man. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for her. I don’t have a lot of real friends but the ones that I do have, I appreciate to the fullest.

But anyway…

If you have gone through bad relationships then I want you to know that your happily ever after is coming. Don’t be afraid to love. You have felt pain so you can appreciate real love when it comes. Your true love may be someone who you didn’t expect. Don’t shut them out.

Every bad relationship is gearing you towards the relationship that you deserve. It’s coming. In the meantime, love yourself like no one else can.

– The Love Gal