Cheating is considered to be the ultimate betrayal of trust, just ask anyone who has been cheated on and lied to in a relationship. Many people understandably call it quits if they find out that their partner has cheated on them. However, if you still have feelings for each other or you feel your relationship is worth fighting for and there are ways that you can build up the trust again then it’s up to both of you to find a solution. It’s by no means an easy path to take and there are no absolute guarantees that your partner won’t cheat again, but if you put forth your best effort, you may be able to move on. This article will give you tips on how to trust again after your partner cheater.
How to Trust Your Partner Again After Cheating
Be Open To Communication
Once your trust has been broken, it’s especially important to communicate with one another openly and honestly. If something bothers you or you don’t agree with it, face your partner about it. Make sure to fight fair and don’t bring up the past to make your point. You can have a meaningful conversation without bringing up their wrongdoings in a disagreement. If you are not ready to move past it then that needs to be stated. You can’t agree to move on but still bring up the past. It’s not fair to your partner if they are trying to make up for their mistakes.
Support Each Other
There should be no sides in a relationship. Understandably if you’re the wronged party, it may come to feel that way. It’s important to work together as a team and learn to lean on each other for support. No relationship is ever going to work if you can’t face each other with your problems. This is going to be hard if you were cheated on, but if you can work your way through these problems, it can be extremely rewarding. Support is very important when overcoming obstacles in a relationship. Please understand that a relationship should be 100/100 and not 50/50. Both parties should bring everything to the table if you guys want it to work.
Stay In The Present
It’s easier said than done. Instead of focusing on the past and the fact that your partner has cheated, think ahead to the future. Stop living in the moment and looking for signs that your partner is cheating again. What is done in the dark will come to the light regardless if you look for it or not. Many people become paranoid and refuse to let go of the past to move forward. Rebuilding trust takes a lot of time and effort, but most importantly, it takes a great deal of forgiveness.
Trust Your Choices
Instead of dwelling on whether you can trust your partner, learn to trust your own decisions. You may come to a point where you’re second-guessing yourself. You may constantly wonder why you didn’t see the signs. This isn’t a healthy way to move forward by any means. Give yourself enough credit and allow yourself the choice to trust or remove someone from your life. This doesn’t just pertain to romantic relationships, but friendships with other people as well.
As you’re working towards building up trust again, understand that you shouldn’t become abusive towards your partner as a way of coping with the past. Hurt people hurt people. If you realize that then you can stop your unintentional hurtful ways before they begin. Many people find that sticking around is a lot harder than they anticipated. If it comes down to it and you feel the need to get physical, perhaps parting ways is best.
Lastly, don’t automatically assume you have the right remove privacy from your relationship. It is up to each one of you what you choose to share with one another as a couple. Checking phones, social media accounts, and phone bills are not healthy for either one of you. If you need time apart to build your trust again then that should be the road you take.